Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match!

On this period of a number of alternatives to satisfy folks – college/college, work, buddies and courting apps, amongst them – is matchmaking nonetheless even a factor in terms of discovering that particular somebody?

Properly, at a sure level final yr (2019), a possibility got here up for me to discover this heretofore totally-unconsidered choice for my love life (or slightly, lack thereof).

Maybe God or Destiny was telling me one thing, seeing as how this got here, roughly, on the heels of my earlier ode to my singledom.

Now, for these of you imagining that I surrendered my courting destiny to a conventional matchmaker the likes of that neighbourhood auntie who is aware of all the things about everybody locally and holds robust opinions on whose child ought to marry who, I’m afraid I’ve to disappoint you.

My matchmaker, Joanne Ng – additionally founder and chief govt workplace of native matchmaking company Dateworks – is actually far out of your neighbourhood auntie.

For one factor, every shopper first goes by way of an in depth profiling session, which permits her to get to know them and their necessities intently.

So there I used to be at our first face-to-face assembly, making an attempt to self-analyse and clarify my character, values, pursuits, and naturally, what I’m on the lookout for in a romantic accomplice, to a relative stranger.

This additionally included what I didn’t need in a possible accomplice, which was a smoker (no, thanks, secondhand smoke!), in addition to my most well-liked race – I admit, I stated I would favor being matched with a fellow Chinese language as I imagine it’s extra probably that we might jive on cultural values and practices, though I did add that if she thought I used to be actually an awesome match with somebody non-Chinese language, I’d be prepared to present it a go.

Happily, Ng additionally shared her personal private and romantic experiences with me in the course of the assembly, making it extra like a girlfriend-sharing session, slightly than only a client-profiling meet.

Now, this profile is actually essential as it’s the basis for locating potential matches throughout the company’s database.

Ng shared {that a} matchmaking software program was first used to shortlist potential matches primarily based on my profile from inside their database, then she personally went by way of every profile to see how nicely they matched up with me, each primarily based on my profile and her understanding of me.

First date outfit

Now, it can’t be denied that first impressions will not be solely lasting, however may also solely be made as soon as.

And they’re particularly essential in terms of a blind date as every occasion barely is aware of something about one another earlier than assembly.

So, earlier than sending me out on a date, Ng arrange one session of Private Picture and Styling, and one among date teaching, for me.

She strongly believes that enhancing your picture is an effective solution to not solely make you be ok with your self, but in addition to make one of the best first impression on a date.

In truth, the company’s most complete bundle consists of 10 dates and two periods every of Private Picture and Styling, and date teaching.

In fact, purchasers may also simply go for their matchmaking companies, with their most simple bundle comprising three dates.

The packages are priced between RM300-800 monthly, lasting between six to 18 months.

I’ve to say that the Private Picture and Styling session performed by in-house picture advisor Ranukka Singham was very thorough.

She measured me to find out my physique sort, confirmed me a collection of pictures to find out my fashion desire (it will not be what you assume it’s!) and performed a private color evaluation, amongst others.

Seems I’ve an hourglass determine, which is top-heavy; a pure fashion; and a pores and skin tone most flattered by a delicate autumn palette.

From right here, we moved on to discussing the varieties of garments I ought to and shouldn’t be sporting to greatest flatter my determine.

Now, throughout our first assembly, Ng had requested me to ship images of outfits I’d put on on a date for Ranukka to take a look at.

Unhappy to say, just one outfit truly handed muster as a consequence of my penchant for unfastened tops (to extra simply disguise these undesirable curves!) – seems I ought to truly put on extra structured garments to point out off my hourglass determine.

Nonetheless, Ranukka and Ng (who joined us in the direction of the tip of the session) have been so obsessed with my styling that the three of us truly went on a mini-shopping spree after the session (the Dateworks workplace is simply subsequent to Midvalley Megamall in Kuala Lumpur).

Ranukka not solely picked out a costume for me, but in addition suggested on extra supportive undergarments and sneakers, basically placing collectively my first date outfit.

The date itself

In the meantime, the one-on-one date teaching session performed by Ng was slightly quick as she tailors her recommendation based on the shopper’s earlier courting expertise.

As I had none, she might solely give some common recommendation on easy methods to flirt and present the man you have an interest in him – one thing I discovered troublesome to execute, to be sincere.

It was additionally throughout this session that she shared the profile of a match she had discovered for me.

WM and I each like studying, travelling, good meals and music, which appeared a fairly good base of frequent pursuits.

The one factor Ng thought I may need reservations about was that he smoked cigars, as smoking was a no-no for me.

I used to be free to say no to the match, as was he, however I figured that cigar-smoking was at the very least a much less frequent behavior than cigarette-smoking, so I’d give it a go.

Ng coordinated our schedules and reserved a desk for dinner at a mutually-agreed spot for our date.

I used to be somewhat late for the date as a consequence of my costume wanting to point out extra cleavage than I did (that new bra was actually supportive!), making me somewhat flustered on arrival on the restaurant.

Happily, WM appeared fairly calm, standing as much as greet me and urging me to take a seat with somewhat quip that this wasn’t an interview, which helped settle my nerves.

Whereas I used to be somewhat stunned that he pretty rapidly requested what number of dates I had been on with the company and that he began ordering earlier than I had an opportunity to have a look at the menu, it was total a nice date.

Regardless of preliminary impressions, he turned out to be fairly gentlemanly and the dialog flowed pretty easily, albeit with some awkward silences right here and there.

We went on to have drinks at a few locations close by after dinner, and he requested for my quantity, which I believed was pretty promising.

Nonetheless, whereas I actually loved his firm, there was an absence of sparks between us.

I stated as a lot to Ng when she adopted up a few week after the date.

She often follows up with each individuals one to a few days after the date, however she had been on depart that specific week.

Nonetheless, after our speak, I figured that other than one date not being fairly sufficient to get to know an individual, nothing ventured was nothing gained, so I made a decision to textual content WM to see if he want to exit once more.

Fairly to my shock, he agreed.

We met up for espresso a few weeks after that as we have been each fairly busy within the interim.

This time, it was apparent to me that there was actually no chemistry between us, though friendship appeared like a superb chance.

The each of us look like a basic instance of how two folks would possibly match on paper, however simply don’t have that chemistry in actual life.

However total, I determine I’m fortunate that I had a nice first date and made a brand new buddy out of it, regardless that it didn’t work out romantically.

Happily for me, Ng stays eager on matchmaking me and already has concepts for my subsequent match.

I stay hopeful that I’ll meet that particular somebody, however extra importantly, as Ng says, it’s a possibility to satisfy new folks, have enjoyable, and in my case, practise my courting abilities.

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