There aren’t any surprises of their marriage, declares Prakash Ganapathy, not solely as a result of he and his spouse, Shanmugha Selvi Rajagopal know one another so properly but additionally as a result of they spend virtually each hour of the day with one another: they run a bridal and retail enterprise in Petaling Jaya collectively. Valentine’s Day dinners or getaways are all the time deliberate collectively, as are their birthday and anniversary celebrations.
“We’re collectively virtually all the time. There isn’t any time to plan any shock as the opposite individual will inevitably get wind of any so-called shock. It wouldn’t work, ” says Prakash, 47.
“Oh, wait. She does shock me… together with her cooking. She will by no means cook dinner a dish the identical method twice. Her fried rice tastes completely different each time she makes it so I’m all the time shocked, ” he says, laughing as he pokes enjoyable of his spouse of seven years. “However, I’ll eat no matter she cooks, good or unhealthy, anyway.”
This playfulness and their skill to chuckle at themselves and one another with out taking offense is the key to their completely satisfied marriage, says Shanmugha Selvi. Their shared love for journey is a bonus.
“We love making an attempt new issues collectively and are each spontaneous. Life could be so boring in any other case, ” she says.
Though the lovebirds haven’t been married for that lengthy – they tied the knot in 2012 – Prakash and his spouse know what it’s wish to be in an sad marriage: they have been each married earlier than.
“I used to be married for 10 years and all through that point, I felt stifled… I couldn’t be myself. My first husband was a pleasant individual however we simply didn’t work as a pair.
“That’s why it feels so fantastic that I will be myself with Prakash. He not solely inspired my dream, he give up his job and have become my enterprise accomplice.
“At work, we’re very bold and fairly severe. In truth, most of our disagreements need to do with work. However at dwelling, once I unwind, I’m very playful and foolish. I’m not all the time this severe, you understand, ” says Shanmugha Selvi, flashing a broad smile.
Prakash nods in full settlement.
“She is the funniest and zaniest individual I do know. She makes me chuckle on a regular basis.
“What you see now, all composed and severe, isn’t how she is at dwelling, ” he says.
Their friendship, the couple declare, types the bedrock of their marriage.
“We have been associates first for a few years and I believe that could be very vital. Throughout that point, we learnt about one another, found our similarities and shared our goals earlier than we realised that we have been in love.
“Once we obtained married, our relationship as associates simply obtained richer. It didn’t change.
“We proceed to do issues collectively and share adventures. And now we have no expectations or calls for of one another, ” says Prakash. “It’s actually fairly particular to be married to your finest good friend.”
What do they love about one another?
“I believe my love for him was cemented once I noticed him with my daughters, ” says Shamnmugha Selvi who has two daughters, aged 22 and 19 now.
“My second daughter used to coach in tennis and daily, he’d decide her up from college, get her lunch and take her midway throughout city for her coaching with no peep. Any dad would do this for his or her child however not all stepdads would step as much as the plate as he has. And he by no means makes a giant deal about it, ” she says.
Though the couple have gotten massive goals in relation to their enterprise, on the wedding entrance their targets are easy.
“We need to develop outdated collectively. And we need to undergo our lives having all kinds of adventures collectively, ” he says.